The more prepared you are for your upcoming divorce mediation, the more likely it is to be a success. This includes gathering important, relevant documentation, like financial records, marriage certificates, any relevant court filings, etc. It also includes preparing yourself mentally and emotionally for a naturally challenging and emotional event. With preparation and the goal of a positive and respectful divorce mediation in mind, it is often possible to avoid the unproductive tension that may arise otherwise.
Here are some things you can do to prepare for your divorce mediation:
- Remove blame from your thoughts: Think about how you can express what you need and how you feel without placing blame for the situation.
- Imagine possible triggers: By thinking about things that might be said or memories that may surface and making a conscious decision to not let them upset you, you may be able to avoid unproductive outbursts in the moment.
- Focus on productive topics: Think about what you want and need out of the mediation.
- Self-care: Before and after your divorce mediation, plan some self-care activities. This might include going to a favorite place, treating yourself to a spa day, or anything else that helps you stay in a positive mind frame.
Accepting that divorce mediation is a challenging event is important. You can also opt to have private meetings with your mediator first, giving you a safe opportunity to express yourself without the fear of judgement or backlash. Having a team of legal, family and financial professionals available can also help make a divorce mediation more productive and amicable.